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Stepping Out of Vicious Cycles: How to Stop the Never-Ending Fight

By: Jennifer Hume

In my last article I wrote about core issues and how they are at the root of surface issues. I introduced a fictional couple, Trixie and Bob.  Trixie and Bob had a repeating surface issue fight about Bob’s failure to help around the house as Trixie had repeatedly asked.  Trixie became angry; Bob became defensive and shut down, which caused Trixie to get even more angry.  And, you guessed it; Bob really shuts down after that.  So on and so forth.

Can you sense the vicious cycle here?  My Google search defined a vicious cycle, also called a vicious circle, quite well.  It is “a sequence of reciprocal cause and effect in which two or more elements intensify and aggravate each other, leading inexorably to a worsening of the situation.”  Synonyms are: downward spiral, catch-22, chicken and egg situation, and vortex.

 

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Jennifer Hume's "Getting to the Core" Podcast

Palm Beach County Divorce attorney Christopher R. Bruce recently interviewed North Palm Beach Mental Health Therapist Jennifer Hume about her StayMarriedFlorida.com blog post on "getting to the core" of wounded relationships.  Jennifer's interview is accessible below and will be available for free download at the iTunes store soon.  More Updates to come!

UPDATE: As of March 16, 2014, the file below can be downloaded by clicking here or searching for "Stay Married Florida" in the iTunes store!